When I told my mom I was becoming a surrogate, her first words were:

“Where did you hear such a stupid idea?”

It broke my heart — but it also taught me something powerful. Not everyone will understand your choices, and that’s okay. We don’t need universal approval to do something meaningful.

I went through an entire pregnancy that we just… didn’t talk about. The elephant in the room, sitting right beside us. But even without her full support, we still loved each other through it.

Because love doesn’t always look like agreement — sometimes, it just means showing up anyway.

Thinking About Becoming a Surrogate? Read This First.

When I first considered becoming a surrogate, I was excited — and terrified.
Not because I doubted why I wanted to do it…
But because I didn’t know how to even begin.

The first question wasn’t “Can I do this?”
It was:

“How do I choose who I’ll help?”

Do you pick a couple close by or far away?
Same-sex or heterosexual?
First-time parents or someone hoping for one more miracle?

No one tells you that surrogacy isn’t just a medical journey —
it’s an emotional matchmaking process.

My husband and I ended up choosing an international same-sex couple from Ireland. Why?

Not because they had the “best” profile.

Because something in my gut whispered — it’s them.

If you’re someone who’s thinking about becoming a surrogate — or secretly wishing you were brave enough to consider it — I want you to know this:

• You don’t have to have all the answers.

• You will find the right family.

• And you will just know when it feels right.

Surrogacy is not about perfection — it’s about connection, courage, and heart.

When a close friend told me she was becoming a surrogate, something in me lit up. I’d always loved being pregnant — the peace, the strength, the miracle of it all — and I knew deep down, this was something I was meant to do.

Now, after four surrogacy journeys, I can say it’s one of the most meaningful things I’ve ever done. Watching parents hold their baby for the first time — a baby they once thought they might never have — it’s magic.

Surrogacy isn’t about “giving up” a baby.
It’s about giving the ultimate gift — the chance to become a parent.

If you’ve ever felt that tug to do something life-changing… maybe this is your sign.
Women supporting women. Families growing. Love multiplying.