Common Myths About Surrogacy in Canada – Intended Parents Edition

Common Myths About Surrogacy in Canada: Intended Parents

When intended parents begin exploring surrogacy, they may encounter strong opinions, outdated information, and fear-based assumptions, causing stress and hesitation. The following are some of the most common myths about surrogacy in Canada along with the truths to explain what surrogacy in Canada is actually like.

Myth 1: A surrogate can decide to keep the baby

Truth: In Canada, surrogacy is typically gestational, meaning the surrogate has no genetic relationship to the baby. Legal agreements, that clearly outline parentage as legally the intended parents, are completed before any fertility treatments begin. Surrogates enter the journey with full understanding of their role and intention to help another family build theirs.

Myth 2: Surrogates make parenting decisions

Truth: Expectations around pregnancy, birth, and communication are discussed early on in the journey. Healthy surrogacy relationships are built on mutual respect and trust. Everyone has a voice, and boundaries are honoured. Intended parents remain the decision-makers for their child, while surrogates retain autonomy over their own bodies. The process is collaborative, with clearly defined roles and boundaries.

Myth 3: Surrogacy in Canada is unregulated

Truth: Canadian surrogacy is guided by federal law (as outlined in the Assisted Human Reproductive Act), medical oversight, and ethical standards. Fertility clinics, lawyers, and agencies work together to ensure safe, informed, and supported journeys for everyone involved.

Myth 4: Surrogacy is only for wealthy people

Truth: While there are quite a few costs associated with surrogacy, Canadian surrogacy is altruistic by law, providing many affordable options.. Intended parents come from a wide range of backgrounds, with many families planning and budgeting over time to make surrogacy possible for them.

Myth 5: You won’t bond with a baby born via surrogacy

Truth: Bonding is not determined by pregnancy alone. Intended parents often begin bonding long before birth through involvement in the journey, preparation, and intention. Families created through surrogacy experience the same depth of attachment and connection as any other family.

Myth 6: Choosing surrogacy means you’ve failed

Truth: Surrogacy is not a failure, it is a different, and acceptable, path to parenthood. Many people arrive at surrogacy as the only way to have a genetically matched baby only after medical challenges or life circumstances. Choosing surrogacy reflects resilience, adaptability, and commitment to becoming a parent.

Myth 7: Surrogacy relationships are transactional

Truth: Ethical surrogacy in Canada is relationship-focused. Professional support is highly involved and surrogacy is built on trust, communication, and shared expectations. Many relationships formed through surrogacy continue long after baby is born.

Myth 8: Surrogacy goes against faith or God’s will

Truth: This concern is common and deeply personal. Many people of faith view surrogacy not as opposing God’s will, but as an expression of compassion, service, and community. Surrogacy allows people to help one another in meaningful ways, values that align with many faith traditions.

Summary

Understanding the realities of surrogacy can reduce fear and uncertainty. In Canada, surrogacy is a carefully regulated, ethical process rooted in collaboration and mutual respect. Education is the first step toward clarity.